The main thing that makes palms sweat, brain go cart wheeling all over the place is, how do you beak the ice. This is tough one whether it is in real world dating or online dating site. Some people have such an outgoing personality, such vibe that they carry it wherever they go, and let others into their life.
When you are newbie on the online dating sites, it is all the trickier and potentially embarrassing for both of you if you let ice evaporate and form a puddle. You don’t want to step into a puddle, do you? While dating India, you have to be more careful. The family the gal comes from may be quite conservative, and this gal, due to a healthy dose of modern influences, tries to date online. But orthodoxy still lingers in their psyche. So, how do break the ice?
Obviously, by being not obvious.
When you are stating to start a conversation with a cute chick, you don’t start with something very obvious, like, “I am (this years) age and all that stuff. They can find it on your stats page. The girl expects it to be more exciting than that. Or, you see her likes or hobbies, and say, hi, I see you like color white, and so do I.” This sort of a thing is going to land with a thud. All it tells the other person is that your eyes are working and that you are not blind or color blind.
To score some points, you need not mug all the details given in her profile or stats or any other page, and tell it back to her. It’s not conversation, not engagement nor interaction. It is, as in schools, learning by rote.
Another area you have to be smart about is, if are techie and she loves gardening, don’t go about trying to talk about your backyard at home, and plants in it. Chances are you get the whole thing wrong, and you will look like a jerk. In these situations, it is better to be upfront, and honest and say, you don’t have any knowledge of gardening and stuff. If you beat around the bush, both literally and metaphorically, it goes from bad to worse. Remember what a wise man said: it is better to keep your mouth shut and be taken as a fool, rather than open your mouth and prove it. Online dating, especially on niche sites, help you get in touch with techies, rather than garden people.
Since the gal is online, she knows the oft repeated lines, the shebang of tricks of trade guys use to land a cute girl. So, if you want to engage with a gal, you better be original, better be yourself. You may look like a jerk, but at least she feels you are authentic. Being authentic builds trust between both of you.